Sunday, 29 August 2010

And I never rant

This post is rather spontaneous, ill-planned and probably unnecessary, and sits awkwardly in my otherwise rather jovial blog, but I felt compelled to write down a few words on certain events that happened today that have disheartened me.
Firstly, I know am not the first, nor will be the last blogger out there to be on the receiving end of personal, scornful and vindictive attacks from the so-called anonymous commenters, who take it upon themselves to patrol certain blogs, scattering malicious and using misspelt, clumsy comments on certain posts, proclaiming ceaseless, nonsensical crap!
I am not going to lie, having blogged for nearly 5 months at the time, I thought I was on dry land, safe from this harem of haters. I thought wrong and being the delicate flower I am, I was mortified, upset and questioned the motive of these faceless few who have it instilled within them to belittle and barrage certain bloggers. 
However, I got over it, moved on and made the smart move of disallowing anonymous comments.
Well today I was met with a ingenious and commendable effort made by one of these commenters...a new blogger profile aptly named "anonbeauty", allowing them free-reign to continue their fruitless mission of leaving unpleasant comments over certain blogs.
Well, you really have to hand it to them, they certainly don't lack imagination or initiative!
But it all seriousness, why?
I am truly perplexed and disheartened that some people would go to this length in order to start battering me again with hurtful comments. 
I am sure I speak for many other bloggers when I say I blog for my enjoyment and pleasure. It makes me stupidly happy to sit down and construct a new post. I take pride in my blog, and what I have achieved and do not appreciate nor comprehend idiots taking the time to come onto my blog and violate it with unintelligible mutterings.  
I seriously urge whoever is doing this to just reassess what you are trying to achieve here? I really thought I had left this juvenile bitchiness and immaturity in the playground along with kiss-chase and hopscotch, and this isn't what I signed up for when I started blogging.
I find it so hard to comprehend as it is so far away from my nature. I was always taught that if you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. I go through life trying to see the best in everyone, but I have racked my brains and cannot conclude what is it that makes you act this way.
There is enough unpleasantry in the world as it is, MY blog is MY space and I do not intend it to be laced with your inarticulacy and spitefulness.
If you dislike my blog, my face, my dancing fairy or my love of cupcakes then please just bunny hop along - click the 'x' and have a pleasant day elsewhere.

And on another note...I would just like to mention that I have be made aware of a few blogs who have mirrored my blog, in regards to the pictures and sidebar titles, to a degree that surpasses coincidence.
I am more than aware that the internet breeds imitation and unoriginality, and also the pictures I gather are from weheartit.com, so hardly an obscure website. BUT when I spy a blog that has 5 of my selected pictures laid out down their sidebar with matching font and headers, I feel a bit disgruntled.
I am flattered to be of some inspiration, but please just ask. Crumbs, I don't want credit, it hardly is an epic or novel notion, but try and maybe put your own spin on it, rather than emulate it.

This post is totally out of character, I will probably regret posting it 30 seconds afterwards and attempt to sugar-coat it with some soppy picture of a kitten or something, but I feel better having shared my feelings on this matter than sit back and let it continue.

Thanks for reading and supporting me. 
xxx


Told you!!

53 comments:

peripatetic33 said...

awwww that is one cute kitten

Michelle Chai. said...

Keep your head up Milly! It's good that you're not letting it get to you too much :) I love your blog, always have and always will. xx

Alexandra said...

People are just dumb, i have people that comment on my blog telling me im boring! Well stop reading you fool.
I love your blog, your cupcakes and your face (i hope that dosnt sound odd haha)! But you get where im going!
Alex
http://alexslifeafter20.blogspot.com/

Primp and Preen said...

I think you're right to say something, although the cute pic of the kitten is much appreciated ;)

Becky said...

Don't bother about that people...it's just they're envious because you've find a way to express yourself and a space where you can write about whatever you want and they just...don't have anything.

http://becksmakeupcorner.blogspot.com

Charly said...

sorry to hear that you have been receiving hate from so many people! it proves they have nothing better to do with thier lives!!
I had a stupid load of comments asking if i ever thought about becoming bulimic because i need to lose weight!
I was upset by this because i did suffer from weight issues through alot of my childhood/teen years.
it shows how pathetic some people are.
Your an amazing girl and should be proud of your blog there are so many of us who love reading it :)

xx

danni_tee said...

god milly, even when you are blowing your lid (quite rightly) your writing style is beautiful!!

dont ever regret this post - your totally right on the playground antics

keep up the good, hard work - dont let a few comments bother you (as easy as that sounds ) but think of the millions you had that make you feel happy and glad you started the blog in the first place

dont let the bastards grind you down

(sorry for swearing on your fluffy cute blog!!!) xxx

Natalie @ BeauMakeup said...

I hate that people take the time out of their day to write crap on people's blogs. It's not only completely uncalled for, it's just plain rude.

I love your blog and lovely cute, lighthearted posts. :)
Keep up the amazing, cute kitty posts! :)
XOXO

Jo said...

I feel awful that you are getting all this abuse, as I was the one that kinda pushed you into blogging after speaking to you on twitter.

Milly babe, you have to remember though, its only jealousy. They are only jealous which is why they leave you such hurtful and unnessecary comments. They are green with envy when they see your pretty little face and cute little outfits and its just not something they can cope with so they will say anything nasty to you, to make themselves feel better.

You just keep doing what you're doing babes, because for everyone 1 person that feels the need to dislike you, a hundred more love you. And the ones that dislike you subconciously love you anyway!

Jo. xx

Dreams That Glitter said...

Oh lovely, this totally sucks. Good for you for tackling it so maturely and big hugs.

xoxo

Tabitha Bluebell said...

Never have I read a rant more eloquently written! I could include lots of pep-talk style "they're just jealous" comments, but instead I want to support you....dont' feel guilty for ranting! These people who fell better by making others feel worse should feel ashamed and you shouldn't have to suffer in silence.

Well done Milly!

T x

Sofia's Journal said...

So beautifully said!! Go girl.

I'm so glad you wrote this because I've only been blogging for 2 months and can already relate to absolutely everything you said. And I have also asked myself WHY? WHY? WHY? What is up with people?

It's always worth remembering that this is all a reflection on THEM. The fact that they don't realise how stupid and disgraceful they are is almost funny.

Sofia x

Hannah said...

It always amazes me how nasty some people can be on the web, or otherwise for that matter! As soon as you add a certain amount of anonymity then people feel like they can say whatever they like without consequence or conscience. They forget (or don't care) that bloggers/youtubers are people with feelings.

Don't let it get to you Milly. So many of us adore your blog! And I know people always say this so it sounds a bit emoty, but the haters/trolls/whatever they call themselves really are just jealous and lacking in their own lives.

xxxx

Jenny said...

Keep positive Milly, they're jealous! Your blog is great and I love reading your posts x

Beauty and the blog said...

I always use this motto *clears throat* "if your being hated on,your doing something right" keep up the good work chic,and lol @ the picture.x

Sherrie said...

Sorry to hear this, Im a new follower and love seeing and sharing my passion for beauty/ life/fashion. But cant understand why people would be so horrible and leave horrible comments!! I think they are jealous hun, and think they are sad they dont have anything else better to do!! Well sod the lot of them :)
Keep up the great blog!!!

Sher x

http://sher821.blogspot.com/

LaurenStephanie ♥ said...

aw good on you for posting this! everyone needs a good ol' rant now and again, its only human (:
Just ignore them and remember that for every 1 of them lowlife haters, there is 1000 of us that love your blog and everything you write, cupcakes and all!
Keep it up xx

The Fashion Teller said...

Hey sweetie,

Look you know what I think, I am your best friend and we have had converstaions about these silly people before. It's immature and shows a bad side to blogging which should be fun and light-hearted!

You know you are fabulous and your blog is too so don't let the buggers get you down hey?

Chin up chick and think of wine enxt Sat night :)

P.S-I know what it feels like to have my blog copied! *ref our chat earlier*-ha!

Love ya lots xxxx

Chloe said...

Oh milly, look how many people are supporting you ^ one or two haters will never compare to the amount of support and love you have for your blog :) xx

Hannah. said...

oh gosh , these stupid haters make me SO annoyed ! Your blog is one of the best and i cannot see how anyone could hate it!

these people need to seriously grow up and learn how to be mature !
Milly , i love your blog and there are lots and lots of lovely people who do aswell :D i am pretty sure they are just jealous !

xxx

Winny. said...

gwan milly. you told them.
:(
i guess no matter how old we get with the internets things will never change.
god bless the keyboard gangsters <3

and lol @ you putting a kitty pic up :)

chin up hun xxx

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Pinkhair said...

Oh milly so sad for you...dont take it to heart..jealousy is a cruel thing...they are losers and we truly love your blog...it seems like a lot of this is happening at the min...just delete there comments and dont think anything more of it...your doing a great job xxxx

tracymiami said...

Ahhh sweetie huggys I hate things like this. People like this are faceless jealous bullies....

I can imagine how you feel as I know personally I would be really upset and would obsess about it forever. I along with 1000's of others really love your blog. You are a diamond princess in the blogging world and I love everyone of your posts....

I am pleased you posted this, because as a new blogger when if I do get attacked and I know I probably will one day I may feel more prepared and not alone.

I guess when people take a pop at you you know you have made it.

Take care hunnie bun and carryon posting your fabby style :o). By the way heart the cute kittie
t xxxxx

Sarah said...

Yeah they'll find you and hunt you down because really, they are so sad and pathetic they really don't have anything in their life, I mean if they had a job or mates or a BF/GF the would hardly have time to construct a massive web of lies to leave bitchy comments.

Serious losers all of them, if they don't like you then hey fair enough but no need to post a comment, some people are just thick as shit so ignore them babes xxx

Saman Sohail said...

ignore the haters. u can never make EVERYONE happy :) although your blog might not be everyones piece of cake..i think the information you share is so helpful all the time :) keep doin what u do hun xx

Classy Dea said...

VERY WELL PUT WITHOUT ANY VULGARITY! THERE ARE ALWAYS THOSE TYPES OF PEOPLE OUT THERE AND THEY TRULY HAVE NOTHING BETTER TO DO! I LOVE YOUR BLOG, CHEER UP KIDDO!

becca said...

Like everyone else has said, ignore them - if anything feel sorry for them. It only goes to show what a sad little life they must have.

Keep your chin up! :) xx

*Dainty*Dollymix* said...

Hello gorgeous girlie :)

Such a well written blog post my darling & something that im glad you addressed! I agree 100% with every comment already written above. All those anonymous commenting trolls are just jealous of your amazingly good looks and are very pathetic, there really is no need for it hun and as hard as it maybe sweets the only thing you can do is ignore it.

You are so much better than them hun, you are an absolutely wonderful person with a fabulous blog of course the trolls will be jealous of you! ;)

Chin up doll and if you ever need a chat or a rant, you know where i am.

Much love <3
xxx

lenny said...

oh milly, you don't deserve any of this darling! they are sad pathetic excuses for human beings who are so insanely jealous that they have to try and make other people feel awful to make themselves feel better. vulgar! they hate the fact that you are loved & popular. i know it's hard, but try to ignore them, they really aren't worth a moment of your time. love ya milly & SOD OFF YOU HORRIBLE TROLLS! x

HC! said...

hey milly! i totally know what you mean about the low lives who take time out of there day to tear you down, it's happened to me as well. but don't let those people get you down. they obviously have nothing better to do than waste their time trying to make others feel bad. your blog is lovely, keep posting!
Haute Californian

The Beautiful News said...

Well said Milly! Chin up, and ignore the haters! x

Lola said...

Being new to blogging, I was not really aware that such horrible activities existed. You should 100% take pride the messages of support from the people above.
Lola x
p.s...love the kitten!

Karen said...

I dont typically comment on posts, but I have been following your blog for a very long time. I think generally that malicious comments come from people who are jealous of you. They want to hurt you and obviously gain some kind of satisfaction from it. Try to not dwell on it petal, dont let them win. And as for the blogger who has copied you - definitely just see it as a form of flattery. Some people naturally lack imagination and perhaps look to you as a role model? I dont blog, but thoroughly enjoy my hobby of following, and I really hope you and the other bloggers continue to do what you're doing. Take care, Xxxx

feeeeona said...

Awe bless u hun, please dont let this get to you or get you down. You are far too nice a person. I understand why you had to write this post though and I would feel the same as you. You have to know how much your blog means to the rest of us though. I look forward to checking my blog updates on my lunchbreak and your posts never fail to cheer me up and thats the feedback that you should be thinking about and not the horrible people that have nothing better to do. chin up love xxx

feeeeona said...

Awe bless u hun, please dont let this get to you or get you down. You are far too nice a person. I understand why you had to write this post though and I would feel the same as you. You have to know how much your blog means to the rest of us though. I look forward to checking my blog updates on my lunchbreak and your posts never fail to cheer me up and thats the feedback that you should be thinking about and not the horrible people that have nothing better to do. chin up love xxx

DreamingCrush41 said...

I think its horrible people can just be so senseless and mean. I love your blog and hope that you dont let something like this get in your way. Hugs and Love!

Alex said...

I haven't read through all the comments because there are so many so i'm probably repeating what everyone else has said but i just wanted to say jealousy does horrible things to people! Your blog is brilliant and something you should be very proud of, your personality shines through it and that is something that no one can emulate. Don't let these people get to you and keep doing what you're doing xx

fueledbymanda said...

Hi Milly, I don't often post comments but I read your blog and really enjoy it so this post has made me really sad. You always come across as such a lovely and happy person and for someone to do that is genuinely awful. I too am what you might call a senstive soul so I know how much bad comments can hurt even when you know you should ignore them. So I just wanted to tell you the majority of people here support you and your blog and the ones that don't are the ones with the problem, not you. So stay happy and carry on doing what you love xx

TaMii said...

ignore these people milly, we all love your blog and thats more imporatant than them, Love your blog :) x

Laura @ The Beauty Spark said...

Oh dearr, I know it's easy to say don't listen to those few who ruin it for lovely people like you but I know it can sometimes get on top of you! Just remember for every "anonbeauty" there are ten lovely genuinely interested people out there! xxxx

Chanelle said...

Hi Milly, I have been reading your blog for quite a while now and you seem like such a genuine nice girl! Some people are just pathetic and jealous who probably feel a buzz from being nasty to be online..I bet if they saw you face to face they wouldn't say a word! Keep up the good work yoir blog is fantastic! chanelleandbeauty.blogspot.com
xxx

Eliza said...

i love the dancing fairy :(

Ariel said...

For the record I love your blog, your face and your dancing fairy! And I found it very sweet that even in a rant post you found a way to sneak in "bunny hop"! Just ignore the haters, they are in all likelihood just sad pathetic people (after all they are the ones hiding behind their computer screen) who are jealous of you in some way. Cliche, but true. Big hugs <3

Cupcakes and Cosmopolitans said...

Hello!
Um, yeah boo those hater bitches!
Your blog is amazning, reading yours, && some other made me wanna have my own blog, so thank you! For you to getting hater comments, it only means your doing something right, && those stupid girls have nothing better to do, then put you down.
I adore your dancing fairy, your 'lil tea pot, && my little pony...&& I effin' love cupcakes too, so rock on Milly!

PS: What is Kiss-Chase? I think I wanna play, lol...

$armin<3

Lauren said...

Ahhhhhh Millybop! How can anyone be horrible to YOU? You're like the nicest person ever :(
You never do anything to upset anyone and don't deserve that.

Forget 'bunny hopping' to the x in the corner, I think they need 'donkey bucking' over to the x. Or maybe an animal with horns! (ouch!)

Some people just get a kick out of sending nasty comments, but their the minority.. Think about all the support you have from all your lovely followers and don't let them get to you.

If they start again, you've got nearly 2000 girls to back you up! Haha.

Don't give them the reaction they want honey bun <3

xoxoxox

Clairey said...

Some people are only happy when they're spreading misery. The likelihood is they're just jealous of you.

Your blog is fab and for every 1 idiot being unkind there are dozens who think your great!

Lush19 said...

That kitten is adorable! Don't worry about what the haters say, you have tons of followers who love you and your blog :-)!

Big hugs and cupcakes (as you <3 them so much)

xxxx

Milly said...

I have sat and read each one of your comments and cannot thank you all enough for taking the time to read more post, let alone comment. I have my chin up and don't worry, it hasn't taken away any of the pleasure I get from blogging, just tainted it slightly and momentarily. But shall continue heartily :)
You have all made me smile and feel better so thank you.
x x x

Fashionistable said...

Dearest Darling Milly, I am upset to hear that you of all people have been hurt by malicious comments. I love your blog, your fairy and your cupcakes. It is as beautiful as you. I too was brought up being told that if you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.
Just remember that people who are nasty are actually hurting themselves more as they are sitting in a bubble of negativity. Maybe you could set your blog so you can vet the comments before they go live. Then you can just delete the nasty ones when you start to read them. Lots of Love Xxxx

LadyBugSays ... said...

Chin up lovely! Some people have to much time and not enough imagination on their hands to do anything other than be nasty to others!

Make Up Nonsense said...

Seriously, if you can't say something nice, don't say something at all!

xx, Mary
http://makeupnonsense.blogspot.com/

Rachel said...

Well done for posting this, Milly. Like so many here have said - for every one nasty comment, you have lots of people who love reading your blog and would never dream of being so nasty or spiteful. It doesn't take away from how hurtful it is, but remember, it's all based on their own inadequacy.

BritBeautyBlog posted a great article on trolls last week which makes good reading. Just don't respond to it as it gives them the attention they crave! xx

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